Very troubled friend.....My friend recently got divorce after 17 yrs of marriage. She was physically abused.?

My friend along with her daughter r taking martial arts and daughter have used it against her mother. I spoke to my friend about my concerns, but she always defends her daughter's actions..


The daughter have been home schooled all her life. This home school system allows her to advance to the next grade whether she's ready or not. At 15, she's already a senior. Her mother still helps her with homework and grades her test. Her education level is about of an 8th grade. She's planning on attending college fall of 2008. I'm afraid going to college should be out of the question. The only social life she has is her youth group which she only started a year ago. And mother has informed me she might take classes with her daughter to help her out.


My friend, still bitter about the divorce, bad mouths her ex and the other woman which starts the fight with her daughter. I tell my friend not to call her kid a B**** but her kid calls her SL**. They refuse counseling. What else is there?

Very troubled friend.....My friend recently got divorce after 17 yrs of marriage. She was physically abused.?
There's not much you can do about this dysfunctional family. If the state allows that level of home-schooling you can't help that the child will be unprepared for college. Hopefully when the child goes to college she can get counseling. She will probably be completely lost and won't thrive without her mother doing everything for her. I've read more than one question on here from kids who were homeschooled all their lives and have no clue how to socialize once they get to college. Warts and all, there are benefits to the classroom situation.
Reply:Take your nose out of their business.
Reply:make her seek a psychiatrist and stay with her step by step
Reply:You lost me in the end.
Reply:they made the choices now they live with them. As for you if you dont like the situation and it puts you in a bad spot being with them you need to distance yourself from all that crap and go on with your life. you cant help those that dont want it.
Reply:The mom might need to back out of the daughter's life. If she is going a community college or state college, there are support systems there to help. College is all about socializing. High school is hard but college is easier.





The friend needs to take the divorce class/counseling where the main topic is raising a healthy kid despite divorce. Bad mounthing the ex is a MAJOR issue. Kids cannot help but take sides in that situation. Have the mom take a college course in child psychology if it covers divorce, otherwise a course on family or social psychology if she does not want to commit to counseling...
Reply:She needs prayer and counsiling take her to church with you and the daughter who by the way thinks she is grown your freind has to learn how to set bounderies she is the child and your freind is a adult and as far as her child going off to school at 15 unacceptable thats a license to go buck wild which will eventually lead to fallure
Reply:I truly don't understand what is going on here. No matter what they will always be mother and daughter and you will always be on the outside looking in, just make sure the glass is clean. God Bless.