My little cousin was being bullied in school. showed a few things from my martial arts and boxing experience?

i look out for him because he is shy. i told him to ignore them and avoid fighting at all cost but i also told him the day they touch him or hurt him to fight back. the next week he came home with a busted eye. my aunt was going to call the school but he said dont worry they wont do it again. my aunt disagreed of me telling him to fight back. the following week i was watching through the window and the kid was bullying my cousin again. i didnt go down to help and watched and my little cousin give him the beating of a lifetime. when the other kid was down my cousin helped him up and talked for a while but i dont know what. when he came up home he told me after he knocked him down he told him if he could please stop bothering him and the bully apologized shooked hands and left. the question is did i set a good example since my aunt got pissed at me saying he doesnt want him to fight and get in trouble. what do you guys think?

My little cousin was being bullied in school. showed a few things from my martial arts and boxing experience?
I honestly think you did the right thing because he needed to be able to defend himself, maybe it would have been better to say only fight back if you really need to. You have a very smart cousin though he was right to talk things out...even if it was after he beat up the bully!
Reply:good on you! many would disagree but i think you did it the right way. Bullies are gutless cowards. They dont expect their victims to fight back. Not only have you given the bully something to think about (he may just find another victim..then again he may not!) But youve given your little cuz confidence and understanding to help him thru the rest of his years....They cant always be protected and have to learn sooner or later how to handle these things themselves.... 10 points.
Reply:When I read how your little cousin handled this situation, I couldn't help but smile. For him to have acted in such a civil manner after he kicked that kids butt amused me. :) Your cousin sounds like a smart kid as well as someone who has a cool personality.





As far as your Aunt is concerned, I think she knows subconciously that you did the right thing by your cousin. The reality is people perceive others that are shy or kind as being weak and prey on such people. It's not right, but it is life. I love the fact that you looked out for your cousin and took the time to give him the tools necessary to defend himself.





This is something I shouldn't admit, but although I'm a 26 year old guy, I never learned how to fight properly. My father was a christian (or at least attempted to be) and had the "Turn the other cheek" mentality." It left me defenseless essentially and this is something I'm really self-concious of. It at times makes me feel as though I am less of a man. As an adult, it's my fault now for not having been trained to fight. It's time for me to invest the time to do so.





My Mother had told me something that I believe a preacher of all people had said that really sticks in my head. I'm paraphrasing, but I believe he had said "Jesus said to turn the other cheek, but He didn't say what to do after that."





As men, we must be able to defend ourselves physically otherwise it is only a matter of time until someone will take advantage of that vulnerability that can be found in a man that is unable to. Something which I think of now and then by the way.





Thank you for looking after your cousin. You gave him the tools necessary in order to be a man in this society.

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